Traditionally, engagement rings are diamonds. There are alternatives but diamonds have remained a strong contender throughout history.
So when one woman’s boyfriend proposed to her with an engagement ring that didn’t have the real jewel on it, she was very upset.
The bride-to-be asked her fiance about it but he brushed her off. When she went to get the bling insured, she found out it was cubic zirconium, an imitation of a diamond.
She said she was upset that he lied to her and pretended it was the real thing.
Speaking to advice columnist Natalie Bencivenga, she said she felt deceived and was mulling over breaking the whole thing off.
It wasn’t so much about the jewel as it was about her fiance lying to her and telling her to go with it to her friends who ‘will never know’.
She said she was truly embarrassed.
The unnamed bride wrote: ‘My fiance had surprised me with the ring and I cannot believe that he did this. When I confronted him about it, he just shrugged it off, saying a real diamond ring that size would’ve cost him a small fortune and what’s the difference, anyway?
‘He said that the ring looks real, and my girlfriends will never know. But I don’t think he understands why I’m upset. I am upset because I feel lied to. I am ready to call the whole thing off.’
Advisor Natalie told the woman that being lied to is not the best way to start an engagement.
‘People may scoff at this and call you “shallow” or “materialistic” but the symbol of what this ring stands for is important,’ wrote Natalie.
‘This is a symbol of your love and commitment to one another. I wouldn’t want to start a life with someone who is so willing to lie to me to make things easier on himself. What else could he be lying to you about?’
Some followers of the column thought the advice was a bit harsh and that the bride-to-be shouldn’t place too much importance on it as marriage is more than a ring.
Others said the way he brushed it off showed he didn’t have much concern over her feelings, which was reinforced when he let her try to get it insured.
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